Cariss Cole
How to Get Out of Feeling Stuck In Between Where You Are and Where You Want To Be
Updated: Apr 26, 2020
Do You Feel Stuck In Between?
At some point in time, we all do.โฃ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฃ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐๐ข๐ ๐๐ง๐ค๐ข ๐๐๐ฃ ๐๐ ๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ข๐ค๐จ๐ฉ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฅ๐ก๐๐๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐. You can either decide that what you are trying to accomplish is too hard/scary, or you can choose to use it to propel you forward.
A lot of of choices are based on our feelings. We do things because we do or do not feel like doing them often. Of course there are things that we have to do, like work and certain obligations that we have despite our feelings, but learning to control your feelings can get you so much farther and accomplish so much more.โฃ
In every ๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐ฉ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฃ there is challenge, but those challenges are opportunities, not setbacks. They are there as incentives to push us to seek differences between the now and the later. The middle of a storm is always the scariest, but storms will pass and we will change based off of the experience. Itโs up to you to choose if you are changing for better or worse. โฃ
Recognizing the Warning Signs of Being Stuck In Between
The warning signs of being in between are simple, but can be hard to recognize for what they are. ๐๐โ๐ ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐๐๐ฐ๐ธ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฒ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฑ. Learning to un-cloud your vision will help you transition from the trap.
Painting has always been a passion of mine. Thereโs something that ignites in me by bringing a rough sketch to life with color. It would seem that drawing and painting would go hand in hand, but that has never been my experience.
Drawing โ๏ธ is very intricate, with fine lines and so many details that together make up the larger picture. Painting fills in all of the imperfections in my drawings with blending, shading and coloring.
๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐ณ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐๐ฎ๐ถ๐น๐. I would spend so much time enamored with the fine points that the larger picture often became distorted because I wasnโt focusing on the picture as a whole.โฃ
In a similar way, we can get so caught up in the details of where we are that we lose sight of the bigger picture. ๐ง๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐๐๐ป๐ป๐ฒ๐น ๐๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฏ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐๐น๐ป๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐. It can easily confuse us into making bad decisions, lead us into depression and increase our instability.
The hardest part about this is that most of our lives are spent in the in between! ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐ด ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป, ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฏ๐๐ถ๐น๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ฒ๐น๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ. Transition how you are viewing things, take an account and re-calibrate! Donโt get stuck here, seek the bigger picture, the details have a way of filling themselves in along the way!โฃ
Waiting Calls for Patience In the In Between
When we are stuck in between everything seems to test our patience. โฃLittle things can make us irritable. Big things can make us emotional. All things can evoke reactions out of us that we might question in the future.
๐๐โ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐, when we expect them to follow suit or move up to the standards we think they should. When they fall short, so does our patience. โฃ๐๐โ๐ ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ป ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ ๐น๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ฝ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ ๐๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐น๐๐ฒ๐. Burning the candle at both ends doesnโt always produce the results we seek, in fact sometimes it makes things even worse.
When my children were really little I prayed for patience, with them and for myself. ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ. Pressure continued to build, until one conversation changed my mind. My Grammy let me know that in praying for patience, I was actually asking for persecution. That in virtues we ask of God, He teaches us lessons to earn the virtue. These challenges are all tests in our testimony.
So I ask.... are you patient? With others? With yourself?
When things test your patience, try to remember that others are probably testing their waters too. Try to remember to be patient with yourself also, as you are always learning something new.
๐๐ผ๐ฑ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐บ๐๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐, that when we think we are waiting on Him, Heโs actually waiting on us. His time is not our time, He does not expire, but we do. โฃ
"But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day." - 2 Peter 3:8
Instead of reacting in the moment. Breathe, count... do whatever you will do, but look up before all else! He is the perfect guide. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐พ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ฒ ๐น๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐น๐ฒ๐๐๐ผ๐ป, ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐พ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐ฟ๐๐๐ฒ.โฃ
Looking Back Keeps You Stuck In-Between
๐๐ ๐น๐ผ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐น๐ผ๐ผ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ธ, ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ป. โฃโฃIโm sure you know people (or maybe you are one) that are still trying to live as if they were in the past. ๐ ๐น๐ผ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐น๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ด๐น๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐๐ตโ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ถ๐๐ต๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐, ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฝ๐ต๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ, "๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฎ" ๐ผ๐ฟ "๐ฌ๐ ๐ช๐จ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ค ๐๐ฉ ๐ก๐๐ ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ".โฃ
I hear this often at work from people stuck in their ways and unable to comprehend that they are no longer there physically and that being there emotionally isnโt helping them get where they want to be presently.โฃ
๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฎ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ผ๐ป. If you are wise, you learn from it. Far too many people, however get stuck there. It can be very crippling to growth. No one likes to be stuck where they are, but most of us need to be pushed out of our comfort zones a time or two before we will move (something Iโve been guilty of more times than I would like to admit).โฃ
If you need a push.... here it is! ๐๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฝ๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฟ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ ๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ธ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐น๐ฑ ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ฝ. The same thing applies with life. You canโt spend your time moving forward, when your eyes havenโt left the rear view mirror!โฃ
Want to get out of the in between? Move forward. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ด๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ, ๐ฏ๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐โ๐น๐น ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐ถ๐! โฃKeep smiling the whole way... itโs the best medicine for mood! When you smile at others, they canโt help but smile back, even if itโs because they get they think your crazy. Let them! What does their opinion matter anyway? ๐โฃ
Leaving Your Comfort Zone and the In Between
Comfort is, well, comfortable. Itโs a place where I know I love from time to time. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ท๐๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฐ๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐บ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด. Weโve all been guilty of this a time or two, Iโm sure.
The problem is, ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ด๐ถ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ. We donโt always know it while we are there, but somewhere in the process we become unsettled. We long for more and if we stay lazy and neglect to move we can eventually become sullen and maybe even bitter when we are interrupted from our inaction.โฃ
๐๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐๐๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ป, ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ. Donโt settle and take a seat. Thereโs so much out there to explore. Both fear of the unknown and of failure can be equally paralyzing, but once you decide to move beyond your comfort youโll grow immensely.
What are some things that make you a little too comfortable? How do you push yourself out of your comfort zone?
Explore the Unknown Beyond the In Between

It can be so convenient to stay stuck in between the known and unknown. Risks can be scary. ๐๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ป๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฐ๐๐ฎ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฏ๐น๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ฒ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฐ๐ธ.
Moving beyond being stuck in-between where you are and where you want to be wonโt be easy. ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ด๐ป๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ ๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ. Being patient with yourself and others is a must. Shifting your focus forward and off the past is necessary for you to head in the right direction and moving beyond your comfort zone will yield amazing results.โฃโฃ
The unknown is also the place where you discover your potential. Pushing into the unknown is where you grow. ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ฒ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐๐ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ฑ๐๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ต๐ฒ๐น๐ฝ ๐๐ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ด๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ด๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ป๐ฒ๐๐.โฃ
๐ง๐ฟ๐๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐๐! Row out into the unknown, stay the course and do not to retreat back to the shore, no matter how choppy the waves get. Youโre closer than you think โฃto success!
Some of us are born with this drive and others of us discover it along the way. One of the biggest turning points in my life was when I stopped worrying about how I was going to do things and started saying โLord, I cannot wait to see how you are going to do this!โ ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐, ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ธ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฟ, ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐น๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ. God is with you and He is for you. Accept it. God will help you with rest.โฃ
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